Ask yourself these questions if you are finding it hard to decide if your partner is simply being possessive or is abusing you Often the victims of both physical and emotional abuse are in denial and find it hard to accept that they are victims. At times they justify their partner's obsessive streak and controlling behaviour as an expression of devotion and love. However, the fact is that any relationship that undermines your self confidence because of constant physical and verbal badgering is not a healthy one. Refer to the points mentioned below to find out if your partner is abusive:-
Does your partner scare you?
If you are afraid to speak your mind or to take decisions without consulting your partner because he/she may get upset or get angry with you, then, it's a clear sign that the relationship is not a healthy one.
Threaten you physically or with his/her expressions and body language
If your partner is trying to intimidate you into agreeing with them all the time by scaring you, you have a very good reason to be concerned.
Embarrass you with put-downs?
Your partner should be supportive, caring and understanding. However, if you have been feeling inadequate because of his/her constant put-downs you need to do something about it.
Control what you do?
Caring for you is one thing, but trying to control every move you make or whom you talk to or associate with is crossing the line.
Stops you from seeing your friends or family members?
Most abusers try to cut you off from those who love you, so that you become emotionally dependent on them. If your partner is trying to cut you off from those who have always stood by you and have been there for you, you need to examine their motives.
Destroy your property or threaten to kill or harm you
If your partner is constantly making threats to get his/her way you need to cut off from them and go your separate ways.
Threaten to commit suicide?
If you are constantly under pressure because your partner threatens you with committing suicide, you need to speak to someone you can trust and let them in on the situation. While suicide threats cannot be ignored if it's a constant pattern you may need help dealing with it.
